For someone who vehemently believes and practices that good food is preventative medicine, and can help provide good health I had a wake up call and needed to adjust my expectations in pregnancy when I was floored by the reality of “morning sickness” and “cravings”. Now, if you haven’t experienced, let me continue to break down these myths. For me, I’m in a state of perma-nausea, and cravings are less “Get me some New York Super Fudge Chunk ice cream NOW” and more, “I think I won’t vomit if we have Pad Thai.”

I had visions of kale salads, avocado kombucha smoothies, roasted squash, and a myriad of healthy mostly paleo foods. As I sit here sipping ginger ale, with a mostly eaten bowl of Chicken Ramen I laugh at this idealistic woman with the best intentions of health for her growing baby. I’ve never eaten so many saltines, or processed foods. Yet, I trust that this won’t always be so, and on the better days I try to make choices that make up for the worst days. Last week I blended beets, carrots, fresh turmeric, fresh ginger, some lime, parsley, green apple,and water in the Vitamix for a smoothie/juice hybrid. It was spectacular. It was what I had envisioned doing on a daily basis.

Do I allow myself to feel guilty for this? No, it isn’t productive. Feeling bad for keeping food in my body is the last thing I need to do, and trust me, I already feel sick enough. I don’t need any more negative emotions related to how hard it is to grow a human. I remember basic chemistry and focus on the fact that right now our baby can’t tell a carbohydrate from a saltine from a sweet potato. Sure, the micronutrients vary but my Pregnancy tea (recipe to follow) helps with vitamins and minerals, and most days I can stomach my MTHFR friendly pre-natal multivitamin (Shout out to Thorne) which will fill in the gaps. Now isn’t the time to scour my nutrition books to worry about what I could be lacking, it is time to thank my body for the huge undertaking of growing a person, it is a time to be kind to myself, to rest, to take warm baths (with a meat thermometer making sure it isn’t over 99 degrees…), and to find community with other pregnant mothers at prenatal yoga- all just trying to do best by our growing babies.

Two weeks ago, on a particularly bad day (it doesn’t help that it is gray winter in Seattle- take your vitamin D folks!) I was googling “I hate being pregnant”. I needed to hear I wasn’t terrible for thinking it. I needed to hear I could be absurdly excited to be growing this human, but absolutely detest the process. I needed to know other women also felt this sick and awful during a time when we talk about pickles and peanut butter, glowing, and make light of swollen ankles and feeling tired. I was moved to tears, and not just because of pregnancy emotions, by the number of women who had similar experiences. Turns out so, so many women feel brainwashed and let down by how we are supposed to feel during this magic time. Of course my brain then got fired up on how this is just another area where false expectations and information damage women. Why aren’t more women talking about the realities of pregnancy? Yes, it varies vastly from person to person. This doesn’t change that the whole range of experiences shouldn’t be out there. As someone who loves to research, I would have been more comforted by a range of stories.

Well now what, you ask, and why are you using your blog as a personal rant space, you say? I write this because I have had to adjust my expectations of how to grow wellness right now and I want this to be a reminder that we all have challenges and occasions where things don’t go as we wished they would. This is a reminder to dig deep and find the joy in those occasions. It won’t be easy, you are still allowed to pout and lay around in your pajama pants all day. I’m never one to discourage acknowledging the realities of our choices sometimes. I am about choosing to find balance, and having the tools to do that even when it is hardest. Here is to life’s challenges, and finding the joy where we can.

How I’ve been finding balance and joy lately amidst processed foods I swore wouldn’t ever be in my pantry, the embarrassing number of take out boxes in my fridge, and the fact that I feel too sick to adult:

  • Pregnancy Tea (recipe from Rosemary Gladstar) Use 4-6 tablespoons of blend per quart of water. Place herbs in cold water, bring to a simmer, and immediately remove from heat. Let steep 20 minutes or longer, covered, and strain.
    • 3 parts red raspberry leaf (Tones and nourishes the uterine muscles, is rich in vitamins and minerals- especially chelated iron)
    • 2 parts nettle (rich in calcium, iron, and many other vitamins and minerals; it is also a mild diuretic)  
    • 1 part alfalfa leaf (helps with fluid retention, and may reduce blood cholesterol)
    • 4 parts peppermint and/or spearmint (For taste, nausea reduction, and digestion)
    • 3 parts lemon balm (Tasty, and excellent for calming the nervous system, depression, anxiety, and insomnia)
    • 2 parts squaw vine (tones the uterus and helps prevent miscarriage- first used by Native American women)


  • I’m enjoying my diffuser with essential oils to make things smell better, and to support my energetic system. I love clary sage, geranium, and sweet orange during the day and lavender, sweet orange, ylang ylang, chamomile at night.


  • I’ve been using tinctures from WishGarden herbs for various pregnancy complaints, especially sleep, though I also have been using a general uterine strengthener to feel like I have some power to prevent miscarriage. I have their morning sickness tincture but haven’t been able to stomach it with enough regularity to see a difference since it is tonic herbs. Their tinctures are safe for pregnancy as they use glycerin instead of alcohol, if making your own apple cider vinegar is also an option. I plan to make my own as soon as this sickness abates. Pro tip, make your own before you get pregnant and you’ll be ready.
    • Calm-A-Tum: Peppermint, Wild Yam, and Peach leaf
    • Sleepy Nights: Milky Oat tops, Linden leaf and flower, Passionflower aerials, Skullcap aerials, and Hawthorn Berry
    • Welcome Womb: Black Haw bark, Wild Yam root, and False Unicorn Root


  •   A bath with epsom salts/magnesium flakes and lavender. With a paper book, BUST magazine, or a guided meditation (usually whatever strikes my fancy on YouTube) is my preference. And my meat thermometer so I can make sure the water isn’t above 99 degrees, if you do go warmer maximize exposure to 10 minutes.


  • The snoogle pregnancy pillow. I haven’t tested others to know if this one is best, but I love being able to support my legs thigh to knee to ankle, it seems to help with low back discomfort that I had no idea could show up this early. Gentle stretching either at home or at pre-natal yoga is also great to maintain strength and reduce hip/back discomfort. I gave in and purchased it via everyone’s favorite online retailer after a night of particularly bad sleep and have been getting better rest since.


  •  Fresh air. Some days it is hard to get outside, and I may just walk around the block, but the fresh air and being in touch with nature even in the smallest form is so helpful. Breathe deep. Find some stillness.  


Here is to all the joy ahead, continued self care, and honoring the reality that growing a human is hard on a body. Even on the worst of days I am so looking forward to parenthood and this new life chapter.
As always, thanks for reading and I hope you find some tools for your own life.

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